Question 1

Talking helps, no matter how hard it is

Accepted Answer

Transgressive behavior often stems from power imbalances. That's what makes talking about it so difficult: the person violating your boundaries is usually someone you look up to, someone who could be a determining factor in your career, or someone important to the organization where you work.

Seek support from someone you trust: someone in your own circle, a colleague, a confidante, or a professional counselor. What you've been through is intense. It's important that you don't have to go through this alone. Set the tone and break the silence.

Question 2

It's not strange if you have doubts

Accepted Answer

Whether something crosses the line isn't always clear to everyone. It depends on your own boundaries, the music industry's code of conduct, the boundaries set by the organization, and the boundaries established by Dutch criminal law.

Are you unsure whether the behavior was truly inappropriate? Talk to someone close to you. If this isn't possible, contact a Mores.online (https://mores.online/)confidant for a listening ear and advice.

Especially when it comes to sexual behavior, almost everyone finds it difficult to know exactly what is truly transgressive and how to respond appropriately. View the web app (https://www.movisie.nl/artikel/web-app-grenzen-werk-herkennen-bespreken-seksueel-grensoverschrijdend-gedrag-werkvloer)Movisie's 'Boundaries at Work' as a tool for recognizing and discussing sexually transgressive behavior in the workplace.

Question 3

You are not responsible for what happened

Accepted Answer

You are never responsible for someone overstepping your boundaries. The person who does so is responsible. Furthermore, your employer or client is responsible for a safe working environment.

If something does happen, whether it concerns minor or serious inappropriate behavior, they must take action. In serious cases, it's important for your organization to act immediately and implement temporary measures. If there is a suspicion of a criminal offense, you or your employer/client can file a report. You can also always have an informative conversation with the police or through Mores.online first.

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